HOW TO COPE UP WITH PARENTING PROBLEMS

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     One week ago, my daughter Mariel, 17 yrs old  and currently on her 1st year  2nd semester  course  IT at STI College , General Santos City handed me an invitation letter from her school. As I read the invitation it says, ... we will hold  a Parenting Seminar and Parents -Teachers Conference on January 22,2011. The seminar will be on " Value of Good Parenting". Listen and learn from the point of view of the invited speaker to help us understand our children.

     At first I'm hesitant to come but as days  nearing and through the day to day consistent reminder  my daughter made to me,  I attended the seminar with my sister Marjorie who got two students also in same College.   As we arrived  at the College premises, the registrant officer is very courteous   guiding us to register and then allow one student guide us to the seminar venue. The national anthem is being played when we come in then followed by a prayer. Then the program moderator  introduced the speaker .  She is Ms Edna from San Jose Recolitos University  of Cebu.  She is a very  good speaker.,lively  and made her audience awake until 12 noon without getting tired of listening to her because she made herself and family as the best example of her talk.  I consider myself  lucky to be able to attend the Parental Seminar and thanks STI  launched this seminar because it  adds knowledge and educate parents concerning parenting.  Here, I am sharing to you readers all I heard from said seminar.

    Parenting is not an easy task for both mother and father. It's not as easy as ABC and counting 123 . It's a very laborious task and does not end. It's a continuous task never ending,  while still living. To be a parent is a privilege and child's welfare is the biggest responsibility .  The parent's care , determines how  strong and healthy is the child, the parents influence on words and acts determines the child's intellect and character plus the invironmental factors.

     The seminar tackles first how man got woman  and Genesis 2:18-25 explains.".God found out that it's not good that man to be alone so He caused Adam to have deep slept and then  took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which  the Lord God had taken from man  He made into a  woman. And Adam said  " This is now bone of my bones  and flesh of my flesh, she shall be called  Woman because she was taken out of man."   Therefore man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

     As human beings, we all are made for relationships. At the time man and woman unite through marriage they form a family. And this family is very important . God gives us family. Nobody selects family. It's God given . The head of the family are the parents  and  as parents, we must know  the purpose of God for giving the family .  Here are the Four purposes of God for you and my  family.

1. The family is a shelter from storms.  It is a shelter because children can take refuge in the family whenever there is change, failure and rejection. Parents have to hear their children. Hug them when they need affection . Help them  at all  time they needed and give them hope, courage to do things and  survive.
2. The family is a learning center for life.  It is like a garden, a garden of growing people. Parents should take charge of their kids. Proverbs 13:24 "He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him , disciplines him promptly" Parents should and must discipline every child they have  and need to move kids from 3 stages from parent control to self control and to God control. Here, both parents and child grow intellectually, physically , spiritually and environmentally. Both learn relationship, character  and values  from the family.
3. The family is a place to play . As couples  Proverbs 5:18  says.." Be happy with your wife and find your joy with the girl you love and married" . Psalm 127:3-5 says .."Children are gift from God; they are His rewards. Children born to a young man are like sharp arrows to defend him. Happy is the man who have quiver for all of them...."
4. The family is a launch pad for ministry.  The family must be God fearing and prayerful. Parents must teach their children about God  The greatest gift your children can have is not your wealth but you as a Godly parent encouraging them to serve the Lord together as family.                                                     1 Peter 3:7.." Husbands dwell with them with understanding , giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessels, and as being heirs together  of the grace of life , that your prayers  may not be hindered." Joshua 24:15 .." as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord."                                                         An emphasis to parents, the top priority in life is not job.  IT MUST BE   GOD, SPOUSE and PARENTS  and CHILDREN and  MINISTRY.